G is for G-Spot: How To Locate It


The G-spot, also called the Grafenburg spot after German gynecologist Ernst Grafenburg, is an erogenous area of the vagina that when stimulated can lead to powerful orgasms and potential female ejaculation (or squirting.)

The G-spot is so elusive that many women don’t even believe they have one. When British researchers asked 1800 women if they had a G-spot only 56% said they did. Though the G-spot has been a topic of debate for many years in the medical and scientific community it has now been proven in the Journal of Sexual Medicine that yes, every woman does possess this anatomical pleasure point.

The G-spot is often referred to as the female prostate because the tissue surrounding it has the same chemical make-up as the male prostate and in some cases can cause a female to ejaculate when stimulated. I personally have experienced a G-spot orgasm and it is unlike any other and was even more intense than a clitoris orgasm for me and I do in fact squirt when my G-spot is stimulated.

The main problem in having a G-spot orgasm for many women is figuring out where exactly the G-spot is. Locating the G-spot can take a little time and patience and be done alone or with the help of your partner but however you decide to venture on this journey here are some tips on how you can locate it:

Lie back, bend your knees and spread your legs, your vagina should now be open and accessible. With your palm facing up, place two fingers inside your vagina, placing the tips of your fingers against the center upper vaginal wall. “You’re seeking a spongy, puckered, or slightly ridged area, like the roof of your mouth,” explains Celeste Hirschman, assistant professor at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality.

If you are having little success at first try relaxing more and becoming more aroused. If you are searching with a partner try some other forms of foreplay like kissing or stimulating your clitoris or nipples. When you are aroused the G-spot fills with fluid making it larger and easier to find. Since the G-spot is located so close to the urethra one sure sign you have located it is you may feel like you have a sudden need to pee. This will pass.

Good hunting and once you find your magic button try different pressures and stroking positions. There are many sex toys available for G-spot stimulation and don’t forget to try different angles and positions as well while having intercourse. Doggie-style and cowgirl are good positions for possible G-spot stimulation as is adding a few pillows under your butt so that the penis is entering and penetrating at an angle during missionary.






C is for Condoms


For this post I will be referring to the male condom, you know that thin stretchy pouch a man puts on his penis before sexual intercourse to prevent pregnancy and STDs. I am not going to tell you how or why you should use a condom instead I am going to make a case for how condoms can, in fact, be sexy.

If you have ever used a condom during sexual penetration you can probably recall that “buzz-kill” moment where your both going hot and heavy then have to come to a halt so you or your partner can put on a condom. If you are the woman in this scenario I am going to suggest that you intervene. Instead of being an impatient spectator let your inner dominance come out to play. Take control of the situation (and penis) and put the condom on for him. You can sexily move down between his legs stroking his member while you roll the condom down over it or give him something to look at by climbing up on top like you are going to go reverse cowgirl and then putting on the condom. His view and the feel of what you are doing can be quite sexy.

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If you are a little shy about putting the condom on your partner try doing it with a blindfold. In the middle of foreplay try blindfolding your partner and not letting him know what you are up to and placing the condom on his penis. (You will want to know beforehand where the condom is!) This will not only prevent you from being nervous if you are new and don’t like the idea of being watched but will add a sense of excitement as well. Hey, if you are feeling a bit adventurous why not try out some of the ideas I listed for blindfold play HERE. 

Here are a few more fun and sexy ideas for using condoms:

Try a condom like Trojan Ecstasy Fire and Ice that produces a warming and tingling sensation for both partners.

Durex Performance Intense offers a ribbed and dotted condom for her pleasure.

How about safe oral with a flavored condom? Glyde Organic Flavored condoms are vegan and feature 5 great tasting 100% organic fruit flavors: blueberry, vanilla, black licorice, strawberry, and wildberry.

I’m not sure how sexy this is but it sure does seem like it would be a fun and playful idea to try a glow in the dark condom like this one from Night Light at least once.

Check out more posts in the A to Z blog series:

A is for Anal: Tips for Beginners

B is for Blindfold: Ideas for Blindfold Play

Q is for Queening

So, I’m willing to guess that some of you females like me have tried queening long before you ever knew the name of it. Queening is the act in which a woman sits or straddles herself over her partner’s face and presses and rubs her genitalia (or anus) over her partner’s lips and tongue. Queening is also often referred to as face-sitting.

The practice of Queening has been around for hundreds of years and practiced in many cultures. The practice was originally started as a way for upper-class women (including queens) who wished to achieve orgasm without becoming pregnant, The “queen” could be a woman who wished to keep her virginity or a wife whose husband wasn’t around to keep her satisfied.

So, are you feeling like a queen? What are you waiting for? Have your partner lie down, take off your panties, and mount your “throne.” Try lovingly “teasing” your partner by moving in and out of his reach making him want more. (Try tying or cuffing his hands ahead of time.)  Unlike other oral techniques, queening puts you in control of both your partner and your pleasure. Your partner will enjoy the view, the smell, the darkness, and the slight lack of air as you put your weight upon him.

Friday Night Fail: Masturbation Gone Wrong

I have titled this post-Friday Night Fail: Masturbation Gone Wrong, but it could also be known as “why you probably shouldn’t buy sex toys from China.”

So as some of you may know I have a Sex Bucket List and one of the things on my list is to wear a remote controlled vibrator in public and let my husband be in control of the remote. I recently went on Amazon and purchased this vibrating wearable butterfly toy.

After a long day at work and errands ran I checked the mail and was surprised to see my new toy had arrived earlier than expected. I had a busy night ahead of me as I was planning on attending the local high school football game with my husband. There was no time for fun and games..or was there? After a little prompting from my eager husband I gave in and decided to try on my new toy for size. There were no instructions or directions to help us so luckily it was a pretty easy setup. Just attach the straps in the slots on the side of the toy and then strap onto my thighs.

My hubby was all too ready to help and I was in a hurry so I quickly removed my pants and panties and laid down on the bed while he inserted the silicone vibrator inside me and adjusted the straps on my thighs. The straps were easily adjustable much like the straps on a bra. Once strapped on it felt snug and in place but I slipped a lacy pink thong atop for added support. Just a fast stop at the local Fred’s for batteries and we would be on our way.

I sat in the parking lot watching my husband insert the AAAs in the remote. Once hesitant I was now looking forward to our little secret. He pushed the button on the little pink remote and I watched as the light lit up and nothing. He proceeded to push it over and over and yet nothing happened.

Hmm…maybe there was a switch or something on the toy we had missed. I reached into my jeans and felt around. I couldn’t feel a switch. I was going to have to remove the toy and have a look. A careful glance around the parking lot told me it was a little too busy for this here so we headed down the road. Once on the road, I unbuttoned my pants and unhooked the straps and removed the toy from my slightly wet pussy. As I removed it the head of the vibrator came off and we noticed there had been another battery compartment we had missed. Ok, same size batteries, easy fix.

I added the batteries as we continued to drive down the road, all the while discussing dinner plans. A push of the remote button and…nothing. Really? I continued to fiddle with the toy, maybe the batteries were in wrong, maybe the part wasn’t screwed back just right. Nope. Nothing we did worked.

Finally, we arrived at the high school ready to watch the football game, having decided it was too late to stop for dinner. Normally parking is free but today a teenager is fastly approaching our vehicle gathering money as I struggle to hide the toy and cover up the fact my jeans are still unbuttoned and partially down on my hips. By now this had been one crazy and disappointing night.

While the toy was a fail my wonderful husband was sure to make it up to me once we got home. Now more than ever we both are looking forward to purchasing a new remote controlled vibrating toy and crossing this adventure off of our list.


Random Thursday: A to Z List of Creative Names for Genitalia (Male Edition)

So what does Mr. Ideas do when he gets bored at work? He makes an A to Z alliteration list of creative names you can call your genitalia.

Aerodynamic Artillery Appendage

Battered Beaten Bronken & Bruised

Clit Commander

Dippin’ Dot

Erotic Elephant

Fully Functional Frankfurter for Fun Filled Fridays

Groundhog Guarddog

Hip-Height Hungarian Horn

Injection Inseminator

Jizz Jockey

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King’s Kicker

Lover’s Log

Nut Nectar Nozzle

One-Eyed Oncologist

Purple-Headed Pulverizer

Queen’s Quill

Rechargeable Roleplay Rifle

Standing Shorts Stuffer

Tuna Taco Taste Tester

Ultimate Underwear Unicorn

Vagina Verifier

Warlock’s Warhammer

Xenismos Xenipentone

Yucky Yacker

Zipper Zucchini

Join the fun. Do you have a creative name for your member? Share below and be sure to stop by next Thursday to see the A to Z female list!

TMI Tuesday: Night Time Is The Right Time

TMI Tuesday blogIt’s Tuesday, well it’s actually Monday night but close enough. Here is this week’s edition of TMI Tuesday, where you get to know a little more about me outside the bedroom.  This week’s questions are all about Night Time.

1. When I can’t sleep I want to__be held by my husband__ .

2. My dream bedroom would be full of __candles and mirrors___ .

3. If I could wake up anywhere tomorrow it would be _somewhere close to the ocean____ .

4. I need to _be naked___ at night.

5. _Growing up (I have Peter Pan Syndrome) _ would truly be a nightmare.

6. Night time is the right time to _relax, get naked, listen to music, and have “sexy time” _ .

Bonus: Briefly tell us about your last dream–erotic or not.

I work in a warehouse and they have a slight rodent problem and I am really afraid of rats and mice so when I saw a little mouse venturing out near my work area I was afraid and it led me to dream about this…..

I was in the warehouse and the power went off and I saw a rat run across the floor. So here I am standing on a table screaming for my husband (who also works where I do) then another, then a possum, then a dog. So basically there are hundreds of mice and rats and a few other animals running around and I am on a table screaming in the middle of a warehouse. Yeah, weird, I know.

M is for Masturbation

In honor of Masturbation Monday, I have decided to skip ahead in my A to Z sex blog series and share with you the letter M.

Masturbation is simply sexual stimulating your own genitals for pleasure usually to the point of orgasm. There are many ways to masturbate, you can use your hands or fingers, everyday objects like the pulsating water from a showerhead or sex toys like a vibrator. There is so much that can be said about masturbation but in this post, I am going to address just two areas, the benefits of masturbation and masturbating with your partner.

Did you know that masturbation can be more than just fun that there are actual health benefits as well? I am going to share a few with you but be sure there are many more.

    1. Masturbation relieves stress for both men and women by releasing oxytocin, a hormone that makes you happier and helps with depression.
    2. Masturbating works as a natural sleep aid. Leading up to climax your body produces the hormone dopamine and afterward oxytocin along with endorphins which can help you fight insomnia naturally.
    3. Women who experience regular orgasm have a greater resistance to coronary heart disease and less chance of developing type 2 diabetes.
    4. Masturbation or orgasm can be a natural pain reliever. It also helps in relieving  cramps in women during their menstrual cycles.
    5. Masturbation helps flush out bacteria from the cervix in women and lowers chances of getting a urinary tract infection.
    6. Regular ejaculation in men causes sperm to be more healthy. Research has shown that the sperm quality and quantity increases the more a man ejaculates.
    7. Men who ejaculate more than 5 times a week are 1/3  less likely to have prostate cancer because it flushes the toxins out of the urogenital tract.
    8. Regular ejaculation in men helps prevent erectile dysfunction.

When most people hear the word masturbation they usually think of it as a solo activity. Masturbating was something you did to get yourself off before you met your partner but what if I told you that masturbating with your partner could also be a great way to spice up your sex life and find out more about each other. At first, you might feel a little vulnerable sharing such an intimate act with your partner. You might worry about what you look like, the faces you make while touching yourself or the moans that might slip through your lips but trust me once you relax you might find the experience to be quite sexy. In fact one of the things I am most turned on by is watching my husband pleasure himself and seeing him shoot his load.

By watching your partner touch himself/herself you do more than get an erotic show you can see how your partner likes to be touched and what turns them on. How does your partner stroke himself? Does he rub his testicles or run his fingers over his nipples as he touches himself? Does she prefer rubbing her clit or sliding her fingers or a toy inside herself when she masturbates? This is where you should be paying attention and learning how best you can please your partner in the future. By sharing this intimate moment with each other you and your partner increase your trust with one another and are one step closer to having a more happy and fulfilling sex life.



T.M.I. Tuesday: Deep Thoughts

I recently ran across this fun idea and decided even though it might not provide bedroom ideas it would be a great way for you to get to know a little more about me.

TMI Tuesday blog1. What promises have you never carried through for yourself? I promised myself I would live one day at a time and not worry about what that future holds. That has proven to be a little difficult and while I haven’t technically broken that promise it is a work in progress.

2. If you could change one law of your country, what would it be? I live in the US where circumcision is quite common for baby boys even though it has been proven to be nothing more than a cosmetic procedure. I would like for the laws to protect male genital mutilation just as it does for females.

3. Are you a starter or a finisher? Definitely a starter. I will begin all sorts of projects and not carry through with them.

4. How do Mondays feel for you? What about Tuesdays? I am currently working a dead end job with long hours. My dream is to be able to generate enough income from my blog to quit said job. So Mondays are a reminder to me that I am a prisoner of the work force and I no longer have my day to myself. Tuesday is much the same.

5. What scares you about your future? I am nearing 40 and that scares me. I feel like there is a lot in life that I still want to do, lots of places I’d still like to travel. I feel like I don’t have enough stories to tell. I’m scared of running out of time or getting to old to do the things I’d like to do in life.

Bonus: What do you wish you cared less about? I wish I cared less about what other people think about me.

B is for Blindfold: Ideas for Blindfold Play

When Mr. Ideas and I purchased our first bondage kit several months ago it came with a blindfold. Blindfolds are a fun and sexy way to spice up your sex life. If you are new to the concepts of BDSM this will be a great beginning exercise for you and your partner to try. If you don’t have a blindfold handy grab a necktie, scarf, or bandana. As long as the object you are using is comfortable and blocks out sight it will work.

So one of the questions you may be wondering is “Why use a blindfold?” When you cut off one of your senses the other four intensify. Most of us rely heavily on our sense of sight but when we lose that we become much more aware of what is really going on around us. Our sense of touch magnifies and what might have been a slight touch before can make us quiver when we didn’t see it coming. We hear the increased breathing, smell the scented candles burning and taste the lips of our lover all the more.

Without the sense of sight, the blindfolded partner is left to lie there anticipating their lover’s next move which makes it a great time to try out new things. Here is a small list of things to try on your partner while he/she is blindfolded:

  1.  Move your hands (tongue, or feather) slowly over your lover’s body. Focus on areas you might normally not give much attention to when making love.
  2. Break out the ice. Move the ice slowly over your lover’s body as it melts. Not knowing this cold sensation is coming will definitely add to the element of surprise.
  3. Use a vibrator to massage over your partner’s body. Intensify speeds as you wish. This works great with a metal vibrator because of the smooth cool feeling.
  4. Try out a new toy your partner may enjoy but be a little nervous about. Now might be the perfect time to try out those nipple clamps or to lube up a butt plug or anal beads and try them out on your partner. (You can check out our guide to beginning anal play HERE.)
  5. Don’t forget to give your partner oral. A little ice or a menthol cough drop will add a little tingling and sensitivity as your senses are heightened. If your guy is the one blindfolded it might also be a good time to try The Grapefruit Blow Job. 
  6. Feed your blindfolded lover some special treats like strawberries, grapes, or chocolate.
  7. Other items you might want to include: feathers, oils, wax, and massagers.

Blindfold play can add intimacy and trust to your relationship. The partner with the blindfold can’t see what is about to happen and has to fully trust that whatever his/her partner is about to do will be an arousing experience for the both of you.  Blindfolding your partner puts you in a very dominate state. Your partner has entrusted you with their entire body and that is a lot of power.

However, as with all activities, communication is key. Talk to your partner about sex. Talk about things you would like to try and things you are definitely not okay with. If you are afraid your partner might do something you are uncomfortable with have a “safe word.” A safe word is a word that you set up with your partner and use in sexual situations where you would like them to stop or become less intense. Safe words are used commonly during role play when “No” might not necessarily mean “No.”


Also see: A is for Anal: Tips for Beginners

A is for Anal: Tips for Beginners

This is the first installment of my A to Z sex blog series where I work my way through the alphabet, touching on a new sexual topic that may be of interest to couples with each new letter. My hope is to finish all 26 letters by the end of September. So without further ado….A is for Anal.

Many couples are curious about anal play and sex and for good reason, the anal area can be an erogenous zone for many. I personally love anal sex but my first experience was a horrible one. My partner and I did not know what we were doing. I was young and nervous and had never read anything about anal sex. He had watched just enough porn videos to be dangerous and broke all of the rules, he went in fast, we didn’t use lube (a definite no-no, especially for beginners!), and worst of all he did not listen to me when I communicated with him that it was painful. Partners should always listen to one another and if one partner is not enjoying the experience it should be halted immediately and anal sex should never be painful.

Here are some of the best anal sex tips for beginners:

1. Use lots of lube.

While the vagina is naturally lubricated the anus is not. A good water-based lube will be your best friend when it comes to anal play even if you decide not to penetrate. The tissue in the anus is more sensitive than the vagina and you want to avoid this being an uncomfortable experience.


2. Go slow and relax.

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Slow is going to be key to the enjoyment of anal sex. Make sure your partner is relaxed and ready to receive. Start with some foreplay, stimulate the area with a finger or tongue. Insert lube fingers or a small toy designed for the area like a butt plug before trying out his member. When and if you are ready for penetration make sure your partner puts his penis in slowly. If you are nervous try rubbing your clit and focus on how good that feels during the insertion process.

3.  Communicate with your partner.

Using your words and listening to your partner will ensure you both have an enjoyable experience. Be honest with your partner about how you are feeling or if you feel you need a break or to change something. Be receptive to your partner’s suggestions and in tune with their needs so you both have a “happy ending.”


A quick word of caution for those new to anal play. Wash any toys, fingers, or your penis (or change condoms) before inserting them into the vaginal area. Bacteria found in the anus can lead to a vaginal or urinary tract infection if it finds its way into the vagina.

I hope my sharing of my first experience and these tips have not scared you away from anal play. My intentions were to offer some advice so that it would be a more enjoyable experience for both you and your partner. Fast forward almost two decades and a husband who listens to my needs and I have found anal sex to be quite an orgasmic experience.


Naughty Candy Surprises

The next time you are in the grocery store stop by the candy aisle and pick up these two delicious treats that you can use in naughty ways later.

  1.  The Candy Necklace

Remember wearing these tasty and accessories as a little girl? Maybe your taste in necklaces has matured but have you ever thought of wearing one of these as an edible garter? I recently ran across this idea on Cosmo and can’t wait to try it with my husband. Slide one of these on under your favorite skirt or dress and tempt him with it while you are out and enjoy having him nibble it off of you later!

2.  Candy Buttons 

Peel off the buttons, lick the back and stick them to all of the places on your body you would like a little extra attention! Once your partner has eaten off all of your buttons reward him/her with a few of their own.


Masturbation Monday: Sex Diary Entry


It has been a long week and I am exhausted. It is 3 am and I think about just going to sleep but I really want to cum and more than that I really want HIM to cum. After a few minutes of kissing I reach down and begin to stroke his manhood. I spit on my hand and stroke the now wet penis up and down. I adore the way his sexy brown eyes look at me intensely and his mouth is slightly gaped open in ecstasy. I know he wants to explode but I want to see him jack-off. I stop and begin to caress his balls in my hand hoping he will continue where I left off. He takes the bait (or rather the dick) and begins to jerk vigorously. I can’t handle it anymore. I spread my legs and reach down to my now swollen clit. I rub it with my middle finger, quickly with side to side motion. He watches, moving his hand up and down the shaft of his penis faster and faster. With our naked bodies touching side by side my eyes dart from his face to his hand, not being able to decide which I’d rather see, his look of wanting that release or his hand on his throbbing hard cock. I cum first, fast and hard. I slip my fingers inside and place them dripping wet inside my lover’s mouth. That is all it takes, he explodes his load all over my trembling naked body. As his warm cum touches my skin I cum again. It drips down my neck, it covers my bare breast and trickles over my hard nipples, it dribbles over the sides of my plump belly and towards my hairless pussy. I look at him and all I can say is “thank you.”

What is Role Play?

Role playing is changing one’s behavior to assume a given or assumed role. When you add it to your bedroom foreplay, a word which here means fooling around pre-sex, then it can be an entertaining and arousing addition. Role playing can and has reinvigorated love lives, while at the same time ones that don’t need revived are kept fun and lively.

As with any role there are several different methods and/or types of role playing that really just depend on the people involved whether or not they will work for the intended purpose. If you are interested in getting started in role playing in the bedroom you can check out these ->Fucking Ideas<- and start your foreplay off like a professional. If you like, it is encouraged to get a few costumes and items to play the part such as a feather duster or stethoscope.

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25+ Role Playing Ideas for Beginners

Whether you are just starting out on your role playing journey or have became quite the expert here are a few role playing ideas to help spice up your sex life:

  1. Massage Therapist works on the tense patient and offers a little something “extra”. (See sample scenario below.)
  2. Naughty School Girl is sent to the Principal’s office for some discipline.
  3. Playful Maid cleans up for the lonely bachelor.
  4. Officer pulls over the suspect who will do anything to avoid jail.
  5. Naughty Nurse checks on the patient. (See sample scenario below.)
  6. Want-to-be Porn Star goes for her interview and has to show her skills.
  7. Birthday Boy/Girl visits a strip club and gets more than a lap dance for his/her birthday.
  8. The Lonely Widow calls a giggalo to come and service her.
  9. Best Friend shows up for an uninvited visit and catches the other friend in the act of masturbating.
  10.  The Curious Shopper shows up at the sex shop and gets some hands on toy demonstrations.
  11. The Desperate Woman shows up for her job interview.
  12. Wrestlers have a bet that whoever wins the match gets what they want from their rival .
  13.  The Inmate seduces the Prison Guard.
  14. The Sexy Caretaker meets all of her patient’s needs.
  15. Strangers meet at a bar and have more than drinks.
  16. A “John” picks up a prostitute for some naughty fun.
  17. The Plumber does more for the woman of the house than fix her sink.
  18.  You just got a package delivered and it’s your new SexBot. The SexBot is programmed to follow your every command.
  19. The Hotel Guest calls the manager and requests a bath be drawn for them.
  20. The Overly Obsessed Stalker kidnaps their victim and ties them down in the basement.
  21. Steward/Stewardess and lucky flight passenger join the Mile High Club. (see below)
  22. Futuristic person finds an obsolete cryogenic tube with a surprise inside.
  23. Cowboys and Indians grown ups edition!
  24. Boss gives employee a tip to the top.
  25. Mr. Fire Hose has to put a little extra back into putting out the fire.
  26. Act out your favorite movie couple.
  27. Tenant pays the rent or gets the shaft. (see below)


If you are new to role playing and not quite sure where to start, check out these 6 sexy role playing scenarios for couples from Bedroomroleplay.com

  1.  Lonely Redeye Flight: The Flight Attendant Gives Commentary Service to the Handsome Passenger
  2. Risk of Eviction:Desperate Tenant Convinces Property Manager Not to Kick Her Out
  3. Relaxing Massage: The Masseur Gives A Sensual Message To The Tense Woman
  4. Surprise Wake Up: The Patient Wakes Up To A Naughty Nurse
  5. Private Lap Dance: The Stripper Breaks Her Own Rules in the VIP Room During The Private Lap Dance
  6. Doctors On Call: The Stressed MDs Comfort Each Other During A Long Shift

I personally have tried most of these scenarios. #2 and #5 are also fun with the gender roles reversed.



Sex Bucket List

A bucket list is a list of things you would like to do before you die. Many people make this list in hopes they will get around to crossing all the things off their list before they “kick the bucket.” A few months ago I ran into an article where someone had a sexual bucket list. A sex bucket list is just like a bucket list but instead of seeing things like “travel to a foreign country” or “ride in a hot air balloon,” you are more likely to see “join the mile high club” or “trying the 69 position.” Some people focus more on people they would like to have sex with while others focus on places they would like to have sex or new positions they would like to incorporate. Intrigued with the idea, I have decided to make my own sexual  bucket list. I thought it might be fun to share my list with my readers and blog about my experiences as I cross them off of my list.

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Here are just a few things to keep in mind if you decide to make your own sexual bucket list. If you  are married or in a committed relationship it is important to communicate with your partner about your list and discuss anything your partner may be apprehensive about. My spouse and I made our sexual bucket list together and this can be a fun and eye-opening experience. Maybe you will discover that your partner has always wanted to try role-playing or has a fantasy about being tied up and didn’t know how to communicate this with you. A sexual bucket list can be a go to of fun ideas when things seem to be stuck in a rut.

Another thing to remember is that your sexual bucket list is not set in stone. Feel free to change the list as you see fit. It is meant to be fun and, if at anytime it is not, change it! Just because you thought it would be exciting to have sex in a car doesn’t mean it will be for you, if it is more uncomfortable than fun stop doing it and take it off your list. If you run across a new idea you want to try don’t forget to add it to your list!

So without further ado, you can check out my sex bucket list HERE. Feel free to comment below and let me know what items you have on your list.

Grapefruit Blow Job

I’ll admit that this particular technique took a while to catch my interest; but when it did, I was thoroughly surprised by it. I am not a grapefruit fan as far as taste it is bitter and not very appealing, but it is a fantastic bedroom edible! The technique was posted in a video some time ago on YouTube and I’ve dropped it in here below as well.

If you can stop laughing at the ridiculous noises and have the urge for a special guest in your oral explorations, this can be fun for both participants. Below I’ll list some items I’ve found useful during the Grapefruit Technique.

Here’s what you’ll need

  1. A grapefruit. (I can usually get two middle slices out of a good sized grapefruit… but this is a necessary ingredient)
  2. A knife. (Whatever you usually use to cut fruit)
  3. A towel. (This method is very messy and even with the towel you may be washing the sheets after this method.)

In my experiences with this method the male recipient is not one bit upset about the grapefruit. There was no burning sensation as the video warns about, and given enough prep time the grapefruit should not be uncomfortably cold. This doesn’t therefore mean that all experiences are the same, so be alert for the recipient’s tells. If it is uncomfortable for the recipient then the experience could be less desirable for you.

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The user, in my case me, gets to have a lot of fun as well. The technique, although thoroughly messy, is very tasty and provides a heightened experience for both. If like me you usually wind up using your hands toward the end of a blow job, this technique allows you to incorporate your hands at all times and the grapefruit encourages me to keep using my mouth as well. I couldn’t believe how much I enjoyed the taste of the grapefruit myself.

In short, the Grapefruit Technique is my favorite oral technique to use when I don’t mind a little after party clean-up. Even without enjoying a grapefruit as the fruit itself, adding the bitterly sour fruit to the bedroom is a fantastic way to spice up your love life regardless of how much or little sex you and your partner have. Remember to be mindful of the cleanup process and prep for this technique, as well as the possibility of moderate discomfort to the recipient. As for me, this method has no drawbacks of discomfort and only a slight misstep in cleanliness.

Fruit Roll-Up Blow Job

I first heard about the idea of using a Fruit Roll-Up during a blow job from a friend at work, and why not? I am sure we all remember Fruit Roll-Ups being a tasty fruity snack as a kid, but incorporating them into the bedroom was a whole new concept for me. I had to try this.

What you need

  1. Fruit Roll-Ups
  2. That’s It!

It’s very simple, just take a Fruit Roll-Up and wrap it around the penis before giving oral. I wrap the Fruit Roll-Up around the shaft of the penis first and then mold the top pieces over the head; but, you could also tear into strips if you wanted to. There really is no wrong way to do this!

After the first time I was hooked and often keep a box of Fruit Roll-Ups bedside. For one, they are great tasting and come in lots of flavors. I mean there is nothing wrong with the taste of a penis, but there really is no taste to a penis. The flavor will also help those who might not care for the taste of ejaculate in their mouths.

Secondly, the stickiness of the Fruit Roll-Up means no hands. If you’re anything like me you may tend to get lazy while giving head, everything starts off well and then you tend to start using your hand instead. I mean, let’s be real sometimes giving a blow job is like work; hence the name job. Since the Fruit Roll-Up will adhere to the skin when moistened you have to really suck hard to get all of it off of the penis, and it is so sticky you are more likely not to use your hands.

In conclusion, the Fruit Roll-Up is quite possibly one of my favorite inexpensive additives to the bedroom. If you plan to use this method just realize it is a bit messy because of the stickiness, and also buying these fruit snacks means you’ll have to hide them from the kids, or they will eat them before they get to their intended purpose!